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Yep, it’s that time of year.  I’ve finished my last handful of candy corn, and started looking for my winter coat.  Checking the calendar…here comes the trifecta of Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years Eve. The season where singleness is felt more deeply than any other time of the year.


Yippee.  Right?


If you are single, whether by choice or not, it can be a tender time.  For some of us, we want to hibernate, with a ton of snacks and hang a sign that reads, “See ya in the Spring.”   Others, go through the motions and “doing our duty” showing up at all the family/friend functions with our smiles anchored on our faces.  Meanwhile our hearts ache with longing and loneliness.


As a first-time bride at 45, I went through many, many …. Um, way too many of these seasons putting my game face on but in reality, my heart yearned to feel loved, to feel chosen, to feel valued.  Singleness at the holidays can be tricky business. The very worse thing any single can do at this time of year is to deny those feelings of loneliness and longing. If you have them, own them.  But let’s make this year the year they don’t own us.


Is it possible for a single to be thankful, truly thankful during the Thanksgiving season?  I’m here to tell you the answer is, “Yes.”  


The key to unlock the door of contentment and even joy at Thanksgiving is a two-part solution.  I’m going to recommend two things to do during this season and you’ll find them right in Thanksgiving.




*Thanks*  start a “thankful for” journal.  Grab a $1.00 notebook from Walmart or spend a little and get a beautiful journal.  Begin with writing down people, places, things, experiences you are thankful for in your life.  THIS WORKS.   You’ll begin to move the focus from what you don’t have onto what you do have.  You may not think so, but you have a beautiful life.  Journal it.


*Giving*  Find ways to give to others.  Whether that’s paying for someone’s coffee at Starbucks, feeding the homeless at a center, stopping in at the widow’s house down the street with coffee cake, or writing to our military.  There are so many ways for you to give to others, by your time, talent or treasure.  It’s amazing what will happen when you do this!


That spells Thanksgiving. Gobble, Gobble, Daters.

Written by an Anonymous Volunteer.