Meet dozens of Carolina Singles today!

User blogs

Tag search results for: "timing"
Dating_Mentor Administrator

So, you're over 50 and new to internet dating. Right now, you may be divided in having this online dating profile. It might even be uncomfortable for you. You may have came out of a very long-term relationship or marriage. In the intervening time the world had changed from romance classifieds ads, and mailing a stamp licked letter to your crush. Internet dating has become very popular and every single person I know has or is using it.  Recently, A work colleague of mine met his wife and had a family with a woman he met online. Could you be missing something by not trying it all? There is only one way to find out!  Here are some tips & suggestions for those over 50 and new to Internet Dating.

1-Read the profile of your date very carefully. You won’t look particularly clever if you meet in person and overlook a major part of their profile For example, they have a pre-schooler and you don't want kids, or a pet cat and you're allergic to cats.

2-When you make contact with someone for the first time, be careful of appearing too keen. A short message that says “Hi, I liked the look of your profile. Would love it if you took a look at mine,” is ideal. It’s an instant turn-off to be flooded with too much information straight away.

3-Learn the language. Internet dating comes with its own set of acronyms that can seem bizarre to the uninitiated. LTR, for instance means Long Term Relationship, WLTM means Would Like to Meet. Always check what an acronym means if you are unsure. You can even post your questions in the Forum.

4-Just like an ancient proverb-Action speaks louder than words. For your own peace of mind, not to mention safety, you should spend a while communicating online before progressing to phone calls or meeting in person. However there needs to be balance. If, after two months, and you’re still having online chats, ask yourself whether this relationship will ever progress. Just keep it moving.

5-Internet dating is not for lames. This is one of the greatest, albeit bluntest, piece of advice I can give you. If you are older, you may have never done anything like this before. Internet dating may seem a bit odd at first but it is normal these days. I, for one, know lots of people who are married or settled down with partners they met this way.

6-Remember it is called "Online Dating". You no longer have a local shot at meeting someone, but worldwide access to many types of people. If interracial dating was taboo in the days of your prime, now is the time to date who you want. You may be blessed and meet your lifelong partner. But also, don't take a rejection to heart. Continue with this and see what happens. There's nothing wrong with keeping your profile up for a while. Your new sweetheart may break up with their significant other, and find you a year after you created your profile. Don't miss opportunities because of pride.

7-If you decide to meet someone, make the first meeting brief. Maybe coffee, a drink, something you can get away easily if you can tell things really aren’t going to work out.

8-Use recent photographs on your profile. Some people innocently use old, youthful pictures because it’s all they have or shows them at their best. Just remember you are representing yourself in the now, and it isn’t fair to use an image of yourself from The Passion Tour in 1997 if you’re actually 46 years of age. If you're having issues with uploading your picture, contact us and we will help you with it.

9-Spend time looking at other profile pictures before you finish your own. See what you might like to try, and what really works. You can gauge that by browsing pictures and looking at who has the most star ratings and the most comments. It’s worth the time and effort to create something really good. Photography is an art. You’re already great, so let the world know you are.

10-Finally and most importantly; do not share personal contact information such as your home address on your profile. Always meet in a public place. Follow exactly the same rules you would if meeting someone on a blind date set up by friends.

I'm going to add one final point. Above everything else, have fun! That’s what glorious dating should be. With patience, You may find your Isaac/Rebecca. I wish you much success and hope you do. More than anything, enjoy yourself and meet some great, new people and friends.

Dating_Mentor Administrator

Dating in your 30s can be fairly different to dating in your 20s – especially if you have just got out of a long-term relationship! Sometimes it can seem like dating is harder in your 30s because there are less single people, and people are more likely to have emotional baggage. However there are actually lots of advantages to dating in your 30s; people tend to be more sure about what they want, and more people are looking for a genuine, serious relationship. Here are six tips for people who are dating in their 30s.

1. Don’t Stress About Divorce

The divorce rate in most countries is normally between 20% and 50%, so if you are dating in your 30s it is likely that a significant chunk of the available singles will be divorced. So if you refuse to date people who are divorced, your dating pool will be a lot smaller! If you’re struggling to get over a divorce bias, remember that lots of people come with relationship baggage, and this includes people who have never been married.

2. You Know What You Want, so Actively Find "It"

The good thing about dating in your 30s is that you have relationship experience, which means that you should be more aware of what you want. If you’re not sure what you’re looking for in a relationship, sit down and list things that matter to you; do you want to find someone who will bring you out of your shell and challenge you, or do you want to find someone who wants to travel the world? This will make it easier for you to find someone who you have a genuine connection with.

3. Tear Non-Resistant Walls Down

If you have been in an unhappy relationship in the past, you may be tempted to put your guard up – but in reality this will just make it harder for you to find someone. Sure, you are less likely to get hurt, but if you want to find a real, meaningful relationship you need to be willing to let your guard down.

4. Don’t Be Bitter

Don’t let negative thinking about your past relationships make you bitter or jaded. The past is in the past, and if you constantly bring it up it will affect the present and the future. So while it may be difficult, it is important to let the past go so that you can focus on your current life.

5. Update Your Wardrobe

Now that you're no longer in your 20s, you should reflect that in what you wear. Say goodbye to tummy tight tank tops, mini skirts, sky high heels, super tight jeans, cut out clothes, etc etc. Say hello to button downs, boot cut jeans, ballerina flats, and blazers, etc.

6. Don’t Waste Valuable Time

If you want to be in a serious relationship, don’t waste time with people who play games or string you along. Some people can mess people around for months or even years, so it is important to leave if you suspect that your crush isn’t really into you. It also means that you are more likely to notice if the right person enters your life, as you won’t be focused on the wrong person!